or two and through? That's the question. Should Jason and I have any more babies? I have said for the longest time that I wasn't having any kids. Then when I was pregnant I said this would be the only baby I would ever have. Jason has always had his heart set on two. I know he is dying to have a little boy, but there's no guarantees. He said if we have another one and it's another girl, he wouldn't want to keep trying for a boy (Thank God). So, here's where I stand...
I am an only child and never had any desire to have siblings. Probably because I have 3 younger cousins and we're all about a year apart. When I was younger I was fortunate enough to be able to see them relatively often so it was like having 3 sisters I could get rid off and didn't have to share all my stuff with. I thought I could just have one baby, and she would be like me. She could be an only child and get to see my cousin's babies often enough to keep her from wanting any siblings. Unfortunately, we don't live as close to them as we did when I was growing up, so I have this complex. I feel somewhat indebted to my child to supply her with a companion. Someone she can relate to. I know I could handle another pregnancy. I know I could go through the labor and delivery. I might have to dig deep for the energy to chase after one and care for a baby. I mean, Elise just started sleeping through the night at 7 months. But, how in the world do you pay for child care for 2 kids?! Jason wouldn't be on board with me staying home I don't think, but the daycare here is $500 a month for one kid!
Jason is the youngest of two. He has an older sister. His sister probably won't have any kids, so that doesn't leave any cousins on his side of the family for Elise to play with, with the exception of his cousins kiddos. We aren't close with his sister anyway, so it really wouldn't matter much. He did agree to letting me get some "cosmetic" work done if I have 2 babies, so that's some incentive.
I have a perfect little girl right now, and I don't know how you can improve perfection! I could only hope and pray for another little perfect baby!
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17 hours ago
I completely understand where you are coming from, my hubby is an only child. I am the oldest but just have one brother, I was similar to you , I have 4 cousins who were/are basically sibling but I got to get rid of them lol. When we had our first , we both decided on one more and whatever we had we were done, luckily we had a girl. I ended up staying home due to daycare costs WAY too much. Only you can make that decision , there is NO rule saying you have to have 2,3,or even 4 kids. one is completely fine. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteI also understand where you're coming from. I was an only child and I did just fine. I never wanted a sibling - ever. I had my friends and that was good enough for me. DH is one of 4. Even though he wants a son, he is somewhat on the same page as me about having "one and done." He said he only wants another if we can guarantee it's a boy, and well...you can't.
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