Let me first start out by saying that I gave a lot of thought about whether or not I would actually post this. But I figured I would since this is only MY opinion. It’s not to say that I am right or wrong, or anyone else is right or wrong. Before anyone sends me any emails or messages accusing me of being the anti-Christ, please bear in mind that I am only expressing what I have experienced and this not a popular topic of discussion. With that being said, this is my blog and we are fortunate enough to live in a country where we are afforded the freedom of speech and religion. So, as you continue reading, should you feel your blood pressure start to rise please repeat to yourself "Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and you should not judge unless you have been in their shoes."
The question was raised to Jason and me, would we be baptizing Elise? I said no and I guess Jason thought we would. I am not baptized myself and did not grow up attending church regularly. Yes, I went to Vacation Bible School, was in the church youth group and choir, and was a member of Freshman Young Life. However, my family did not go to church every Sunday. I grew up outside of Houston where religion and what church one attended were not routine conversation topics. There were so many people with diverse beliefs and religions, that it wasn't an important issue. We moved to the Texas Panhandle ( aka "The Bible Belt") when I was in high school. I could NOT believe every single person I met at school asked me what church I was going to go to. Well, I wasn't going to church and that was almost unheard of. I was invited to attend several different churches with different people and I agreed. Let me stop here and say that I don't feel like I HAVE to go to church to be a Christian, have faith, or go to Heaven. I think if I live my life in a positive way with good morals and follow the straight and narrow, that's enough. Anyway, in my experiences with attending various churches I have come to realize there are a few different types of people that go to church. I am not any of these, nor do I intend to be.
There are those people that love church and God all the way to their core. That is great for them. They genuinely live their live according to the word of God and want to spread the message to everyone they meet. They do not drink or swear or sin, and are present at EVERY function and are very involved. So, basically I could not be myself around these people at church.
Then you have those people that go to church because it's a big show... socially expected. They sit there and pass judgment on everyone else. They judge the lives of the people that go to church with them and they judge the lives of people BECAUSE they don't go to church. I have known people like this so it's not a stretch from the truth. Passing judgment on someone because they do not attend church is NOT what religion is all about. It's about NOT judging and being accepting and open-minded. I am an open minded person and these people only feel their way is RIGHT, when in all actuality they are not heeding the words they are being taught in church.
Last but not least, you have the hypocrites that are in church every Sunday preaching about not sinning, but were out the night before getting drunk and sleeping around. If you're gonna be out making an ass of yourself for the whole town to see what's the point of going to church and pretending to be the Golden child? This was the majority of the high school football team.
Like I said, this is all in my experiences and I can only speak for myself. Also, I realize that not all churches and religions are this way, but my experiences after moving have left a bad taste in my mouth. I cannot see myself starting to attend church for the sole purpose of baptizing my daughter. I think it should be a choice she decides on her own. I wouldn't even know what church to choose. I don't think it's right to start going to church for that reason. It should be a personal decision that each individual has the right to make. It shouldn't be forced upon or made some to feel inadequate because of their choices. It's the luxury that we as Americans have to choose, and no one needs to make that choice for us or judge us because of our personal preferences.
After discussing this with a friend of mine, she completely understood where I was coming from. She too has had similar experiences and converted to Catholicism. She invited me to attend her church with her family if Jason and I wanted to. I have already been to so many different churches, what's one more? And like I said, I'm pretty open-minded so, who knows maybe?
I hope I haven't offended anyone and want to reiterate that I am not putting these labels on ALL churches and religions. This is just what I have observed firsthand.